The Ten Things Every Woman Must Have Realized at 25

You are at the point in your life where and when you feel that you are 100% an adult. You earn your own money, you support your family, you pay your bills (and have consistently done it on time), you clean your own apartment, you buy your own groceries, you create life-changing thoughts and decisions in your shower (or in the loo, your choice), you do your laundry, you (try to) manage your schedule (juggling work, family, love and recreation) and you are 25.

And then there are moments in being in this quarter of a century that you understand you are at least a little wiser than yesterday and so much more than 365 days ago. You’ve learned that:

1. Family is everything. This is something you’ve heard countless times from your parents and other grownups when you were just a few feet old but you’ve really learned its essence to the core of your being when you’ve spent years away from home while trying to chase after what the future holds for you. You learned that your mother really is the superwoman in your life without the red and yellow costume you’ve drawn and imagined her to be when you submitted your second grade homework. You learned that your sibling is the greatest ally you can have, no matter your differences. You learned of the grave difficulty your parent/s has/have gone through just so you can have a comfortable life after receiving your paychecks that were earned through a month’s worth of petty issues at work, fatigue, emotional distress, questioning of self-worth and so much more but you still have to show up because yeah, this is life. You respect your parents more because of that. You learned that at the end of the day, the sweetest idea will always be that you will always have somewhere to go and your most favorite people in the world are there waiting for you.

2. The smaller your circle, the lesser the stress. Over time since college, you have learned that not everyone who calls you “sis” on Facebook is a true friend in the real world. You learned that not all people who post collages of your photos together on Instagram on your birthday are people you can count on. You learned that no matter how many hundreds of followers and ‘likers’ you have on social media, you can only count the realest people with just your hands (or plus your toes, if you’re lucky). You learned that if it came to a crazy point where you had to delete and just leave those who you really think will stay with you in real life, your News Feed will only consist of close family and a few friends. Need I elaborate more?

3. God is an amazing God. You learned that He has been guiding you all along and that your wishes and dreams have all been in a way or another, granted – in the way you wanted it to be and sometimes, in a way better than you have imagined. You learned to surrender everything to Him – your disappointments, sorrows, regrets, guilt, dreams and successes. You learned that with Him in your heart, everything will be okay.

4. Your lover is your best-est friend. You learned that there’s really not a constant need for girl talks and all that because you have the world by your side. You have the greatest confidant in someone you call your boyfriend. You learned that there’s no point hiding the most authentic you from him as if he’s really meant to stay, he will have to make do of the real you anyway. You learned that that person who stuck with you through thick and thin is worth imagining forever with. You learned that though love is not measured in the years you spent together, the years will always be intangible proof of your solid partnership against the world and that it will always be a source of pride for you.

5. You will never be truly ready. You will never be ready to go through another job interview. You will never be ready to relocate. You will never be ready to attend that high school reunion. You will never be ready for family life. You will never be, what with your very idealistic expectations from yourself and from the world. But you’ve learned that fact so even if it’s as scary as hell, you learn to brave the chance and pray with all your heart that it will be worth it.

6. Travelling is something you owe yourself. You learned that there’s more to travelling than simply spending your hard-earned cash for some flamboyant pleasures of the world. You learned that you learn more of yourself as you travel. You learned that there’s a bigger world of possibilities outside your little space of comfort. You learned that you travel to have your mind and soul grow with you – that you have to do this as a spiritual, mental and emotional hibernation from everything that’s keeping you weighed down. You learned that you deserve it.

7. Money can always be earned. As much as you’ve learned the value of money when you became a part of the working force in your country (or overseas), you’ve also learned its little value when compared to more important things like family, self-love and spirituality. You see now how little luster money has in your eyes and how it pales when beside these other needs or goals in life. You can always earn money. Anytime, anywhere. Memories can never be that way when you’ve chosen money over it.

8. LVs and Louboutins are not investments. You learned that it’s so much worth your sweat and tears to put your money into real investments like building your dream house, purchasing your dream car, having an insurance or saving it all up in the bank. You learned that you’d rather have a more worthwhile ‘show’ of something you can brand your life achievement than flaunt something you can wear for a few years and in very infrequent instances. If you can do both then good for you. But if you’re jumping from paycheck to paycheck simply to get ahold of that new handbag..

9. Your greatest asset will always be a good head on your shoulders. You learned that to be sexy, it doesn’t require you to strip. NOT AT ALL. You learned that being smart is so much more important than spending your time trying to have (and going gaga) over Candice Swanepoel’s tiny waist or Kendall Jenner’s loooooooooooooooonggggggg legs. You’ve learned to spend more of your precious time sharpening both hemispheres of your brain – with some stalking in between, but still.

10. Not everyone’s gonna be nice but you don’t have to be bitter yourself. As much as you want to live in a perfect world, you will always come across people who seem to do nothing but burst someone’s bubble. You have consistently crossed paths with these people but you have learned either to have a safe distance from them or have learned to just simply eradicate them in your life. You learned that you don’t have to join their wagon to be equal or feel better for yourself. You have realized that you love and respect yourself to a degree that you have to protect yourself from these unhealthy people. Instead, you learned to make the opposite of them out of yourself. You learned that the world is too beautiful to not have beautiful people. So you try to inspire, motivate and move by living your life the most positive way you can.#

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Registered Nurse. Flight Attendant.
Writer. Reader. Dreamer. Believer.
Daughter. Sister. Auntie. Wife.

161 Comments Leave a comment

  1. I am 25! And you just put everything I have in mind into words! πŸ™‚ This is such a great blog. In seconds, it made re-think a lot of things in my life and the thought of me turning 26 scares me a lot. Anyway, great post! Thanks for sharing.

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    • Hi, Fel! Thank you for your comment. It made my day. 😊 It’s a relief to know the message I published through the post translated well especially to the 25 year olds. I share the fear of becoming older but believe that the future holds so much more surprises for us! Thank you for reading! Have a good night! 😊

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    • Frankly speaking, I rarely read blogs. But this one caught my attention because this year I’m turning 25. Everything you write is exactly true and I can relate with it. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Thank you for this blog. I am still 23 yeas old, and will turn 24 this year yet I feel like I am martured in thinking. The ten things you put says everything that is on my thoughts day and night whenever I am in my room, alone, far away from home. God is the number 1 Defender and Provider, my family are the most valuable ones in my life, money it can be found, I can see who are my true friends, I am able to travel because of my hard earned money..well
    I owe that to myself and yeah..when I wil turn 25 most probably that I am not ready to relocate. I’m having this thought of going back home and seize the moment – being with my family, just like the old times attending spiritual groups and so on.
    Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. It caught my attention so much that I am in tears while reading.
    In life, there’s really a breaking point when you need to decide. As a woman, we weigh things first. And it’s hard when both choices are of the same level of importance. God bless you anyway!

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    • Hi, Magie! Having read your comment, I looked back to how I was when I was your age. I would also say I was at a point then where I knew I had to make a big change in my life. I remember feeling scared at the decisions I was supposed to make then. I also had (and still have) those moments when I was alone that I felt the need to rethink everything happening in my life. I felt so young then but also so old. I felt like I had to make major changes in my life and I had to make them fast. That time, I was working in the city away from my family so I would honestly say that it was God who strengthened me. I remember talking to Him whenever I can just so I can release the doubts I had in my mind and heart. Those moments, I would say, are one of the defining highlights of my renewed and more mature relationship with the Lord. I don’t know for certain if I made the right decision then. But where I am now is the consequence of that choice I made then and I would say with all my heart that I have never been more grateful of life. I hope and pray that whatever it is you’re going through, you find your strength and peace in God. Find consolation in your family. Time and time again, I am reminded that the future is always exciting. Hence, whatever the future has in store for you, I am sure it is meant to make you happier, wiser and stronger. Life is beautiful! Have fun! God bless you too. πŸ™‚


  3. I am still 23 but your blog is very relatable. Back when I was in highschool I was a rebel and I haven’t thought that much in being really close to my family. But as time passes, I’ve learned that family is really important. Keeping a few friends close to you will keep you grounded and you may save a few bucks but don’t forget to have fun and travel. Lastly, always trust in His timing. Thank you for creating. It’s a good read.

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  4. Turning 25 in 3 weeks. I am not looking forward to growing old but somehow i am looking forward to this age. Your post expresses my thoughts, my feelings, my fears and joys in being 25. Arigatou~

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  5. This is totally hilarious. I just cant express how this article seems to reflect my life right now.. though I’m still 24 but going 25 this july… I’m so proud to be at this level of my life that i have achieve something that every woman at my age would love to have and would want to be like. WOMAN be proud to be 25. Be proud of the years you have been through so much struggle, stiffness, sacrifices yet you are living a wonderful- happy life.. its a good for the overall experience we had good or bad that made us who we are right now—VIBRANT, SMART, STRONG and FREE.

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  6. Hi thank you for this blog , I have a lot of realizations in mind right now. I’m still 22 but yeah i’m almost there, all of the things that were there in top 10, I’m little bit experiencing right now. Thanks a lot for this blog πŸ™‚

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  7. This blog is realistic and very relatable. I’m 25 and every part of this seems like a confirmation that I indeed am. I was like, “How did she know that?” You put my thoughts into words.

    Great job!

    I’m pleased to meet you here! πŸ™‚


  8. Hi! Very well said! I am 25 and really in a state of confusion and fear about things in life but I do not even realize that I am bravely facing it until i read this beautiful things you shared. I honestly cannot believe that all those numbers from 1 to 10 are absolutely true to me. As I read it carefully I just found myself smiling and leave a check mark on it because it is really reflecting in my life as of the moment. It is a great blog!

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  9. Its a wonderful blog Aly. How could you put into words how i feel? Extremely amazing. This says it all. Thank you for sharing your worksin here. I just turned 25 this month and every realization i had is well written in here. Superb!

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  10. hi! Im already 25 and turning 26 in less than 3weeks. I can say that Im in a quarter life crisis, there’s so many ‘what ifs’ I do have in mind. I so thank you for doing this blog,it really enlightens me and made me realize that Im not the only one who’s going through those realizations in life. But for me the most important thing we have to focus on while we’re still young is loving our parents,coz their not going to be there for you forever,so create happy memories with them while their still strong.
    Thanks again girl! πŸ˜‰

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  11. Hello…. such an enlightening blog! Well i am a Mother of 2 girls, one is turning 26 & the other is turning 15, so that means that my eldest is in this realization stage right now (w/c made me really soo relieved after long years of waiting 😊), but I’m in the midst of another waiting game again for my youngest coz u know how rebellious teenagers are nowadays! So can’t really wait for this time to come for her, and when that time comes, i hope that it’s not too late yet😒
    I love both of my daughters and all i want for them is to have a good and stable life of thier own, i could say that my eldest is really starting to move on the right path of her life now but my youngest is pushing herself really away from us @ the moment (w/c i know is the toughest part of being a teenager)but i will never stop hoping that she’d reach this stage of her life too! πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’– Thanks again for this verry nice blog!

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  12. this is a good read iam 25 turning 26 at the end of the month. i cannot relat myself on #1 as you can see iam a product of a broken family. my mom as i can see pleases me now only because she knew iam having work abroad she have favoritism, i only have 1 sibling and not the same father. back when we were younger i didnt see her that way but now as she get older and she said that iam nothing of an importance in this family i cant believe i heard that from her, i gave her almost everyhting she needs if only i can. material things, android phones, dresses and money and not only that she blurt out the things i didnt want to say because i know she was studying and in need of “baon” her line was “porket ba nakakahingi ako sayo ng pambaon baon ko” wow?! just how shallow she is! and that is the end of the line for her. i said to myself that iam in no need of a mother and a shallow minded sister! iam the one whose suppose to say that to her but i didnt and now i cant see her as my sister anymore not HALF sister but a STRANGER. my family is not my everything. i can live without them if everything would be blamed on me. ive lived long enough and did not miss them because i know right from the start it is not me they needed it is my money though i didnt have much still it is what it is. i can relate from #2 to bottom but definitely not #1


  13. Hi Aly! Though I’m not yet 25 and I’m turning 22 this coming week, your article is really really great and it is really relatable. Something to look up to to start a good and a wonderful life journey. And also, thank’s for reminding everyone that God is the true companion in life whatever the situation is. And yes your right! You can always earn money and you can’t pay memories to have one. Keep it up! Enjoy your great and awesome walk with God! More love :*

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  14. Hello Aly,
    I’m browsing at facebook when I saw one of my friends post this article. I feel must have read this coz I’m turning 25 this June. Its amazing, my thoughts were written here.
    I really like, the God is amazing God. At this point of my life, its is true. I surrender all to him. And whatever my decision will be he’s always right beside me. Strengthen me, love and guide on my journey. Thanks for sharing this blog. I appreciate it. God bless more power.

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  15. Hi there,
    I don’t usually read long blogs if it does not catch my interest but guess what I even ended up reading the comments and your replies.I still have more than a year before I get there but it’s nice to know that I’ve already realized most of those things. As for the rest that does not apply at the moment, I better prepare for it and I thank you for that.. πŸ˜€
    Thank you for your wonderful piece.
    Keep writing! πŸ˜ƒ

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    • Hi, Aileen! Thank you. I’m amazed with the response this blog post has been receiving. So I guess that just proves that women are still similar in so many ways as you can see how diverse the audience this post got. It’s great that you’ve realized most of these things years ahead your silver year! You’ll have fun at 25! I thank you for your message. You made my day. 😊


  16. 10. Not everyone’s gonna be nice but you don’t have to be bitter yourself. As much as you want to live in a perfect world, you will always come across people who seem to do nothing but burst someone’s bubble. You have consistently crossed paths with these people but you have learned either to have a safe distance from them or have learned to just simply eradicate them in your life. You learned that you don’t have to join their wagon to be equal or feel better for yourself. You have realized that you love and respect yourself to a degree that you have to protect yourself from these unhealthy people. Instead, you learned to make the opposite of them out of yourself. You learned that the world is too beautiful not to have beautiful people. So you try to inspire, motivate and move by living your life the most positive way you can.

    #EXACTLY πŸ™‚ I am turning 29 this year. I have spent my whole life as far as i can remember with different kind of people. The attitude speaks in everything – You have to be true to yourself for you to be totally happy.

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  17. I’m turning 40 next month and took my first real vacation just last year. I went to Spain and fell in love with the people and the landscape. I came back a different woman… better. All of the other wonderful thoughts in this blog post fell into place after I returned. Oh, I’m also going back this year!

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  18. Ola aly
    I really love it,i wonder how you put my thoughts to 26 though but this one is really relatable.stupendous thoughts.anyhow thanks for sharing.looking forward to read. stay awesome.have a fantastic sunday.:)

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